Trust has been a theme in clinic over the last few weeks and we have had lots of discussions around what trust means and feels like.
I have often heard from clients that they have trust issues and it is something that I used to say too.
Trust is something that needs to be built.
This is why when it is broken it can be so devastating. It takes time.
Trust is something that we feel and build within.
I heard a great analogy of trust used recently. You wouldn’t step out onto a bridge that is made of a twig. You can tell by looking at it that it will not hold you. So you build that bridge up with larger logs and maybe some planks of wood or other materials to make it strong, until you look at it and it feels right. You then step up and you make the first step, testing it first, then adding more pressure until you can step fully onto it. You build trust in the bridge until you don’t even have to think about it, you know it feels right.
If you had stepped out onto that twig in the first place, even though your intuition was saying no, and you feel off and hurt yourself, how can you say that you have trust issues?
And yet this is what so many of us do.
Most of our trust issues are actually our lack of trust of ourselves. This then flows onto lacking trust in our relationships and the universe.
We can build trust within.
Do you check in to your own wisdom or do you go externally for your answers?
Even when other people are saying that you should be doing something that would be good for you, if you know in your gut and in your heart that it is not for you, then walk away, say No and own your decision.
You don’t need to know why, you only have to trust it.
You do not have to justify yourself and your decisions.
It is no one else’s business but your own.
I have listened to other people in the past, rather than my own intuition. I defaulted to their advice rather than listening to my own intuition, because they know better, right?
Or I didn’t listen to my intuition, because my logical brain was saying this is a great opportunity and other people are doing it, so it must be good for me too.
I followed my logic, which is often linked to my fear programs instead of my intuition.
It didn’t end well.
I then got angry for not trusting myself and backing those feelings.
What a great lesson to have though!
Now that I know better, I honour my intuition and follow it. I challenge my fear and insecurities and don’t let them dictate my decisions, or hide behind logic. I have built trust within myself, so that now I know that I can trust the universe and those around me, because my intuition is going to let me know when something is wrong and I will follow it.
I trust myself and I trust the universe completely.
It is OK to go against others opinions. It is OK to do things your way, even when nobody else understands it.
You may not even understand it at the time, and that it ok too!
It is a must to trust those feelings, as that is how trust is built.
It is your life and you get to choose how you live it.
Is it time to trust yourself?
You are truly magnificent.