I have been seeing a lot of people posting about using this physical distancing time on self-development, bettering themselves and using the time wisely.
Essentially replacing our previous busyiness into a new busyiness,
There has been a belief that busy and doing equated to being valuable. Now that we are not as busy and our lives have slowed down, the external markers of validation are simpler not there.
So to prove our worth, to be valuable, we must improve ourselves right?
The thing is that at the moment our nervous system and flight/fight response maybe doing weird things.
We may be struggling with concentration, have trouble sleeping, got no motivation and or feeling fearful.
There is 2 markers that have an impact in traumatic experiences
- The feeling of not being able to escape.
- Not being able to work out or make sense of something.
Both of those are currently happening in most people lives.
We are learning how to BE versus how to DO.
We are being invited to break the belief of needing external validation and learning to value and embrace our being.
If you are loving self-development, have high motivation, have creative ideas and being innovative, fantastic! Keep on going.
If you aren’t or know someone who isn’t, please be kind. Don’t feel ashamed or bad that you are not feeling it. Sitting and watching TV or reading a book is also valuable.
You are immensely valuable.
You truly are magnificent.