I have had many conversations over the years around boundaries. The last few weeks it is a theme amongst many of my business clients, as they are struggling with setting boundaries, boundaries not being respected by others or people who have no boundaries.
If you are not setting your boundaries, others will.
We want to help, to offer our services, make money to support ourselves and our families, that we often accommodate people to the detriment of ourselves.
This can lead to burnout, resentment, fatigue and anger. Not a great place to be, especially offering our services.
It is your responsibility and part of your job to set your boundaries, to honour them and communicate them.
So why do people lack boundaries?
There are many reasons.
Fear of how other people will react to our boundaries and not wanting to be confrontational.
Lack of self-worth and self-respect.
Inability to say no.
Don’t know how to communicate or set your boundaries.
Constantly giving your power away to other people.
Expecting others (people, organisations, government) to set rules for you, rather than listening to your own inner guidance and do what is right for you.
Needing to please other people.
So what does boundaries look like, feel like, and sound like to you?
This will depend entirely on you.
Your energy. The amount of money you want to earn. How much work you are able to physically do and be healthy. Your other commitments around family, your partner, friends, social and sport etc. What you will tolerate and what you won’t. What your values are and what is important to you.
If you are setting new boundaries, then others may not like that, as they are used to you being a certain way that benefitted them.
It is not your problem how they react and is totally outside your control.
Each time you stay firm in your boundaries, you are sending a clear message that you value yourself. The more you do this, the easy it gets and the more people will respect you.
Do you know that you have to set a new boundary in life or business?
I would love to help you uncover the underlying belief systems and emotions that are holding you back. Bookings through my website.
You truly are magnificent.