Many I have spoken to are feeling a combination of anger and grief.
Anger at the injustice of the virus and the changes forced upon us.
Anger at the poor communication and leadership at the head of our country.
Anger at the messages that the economy is more important than human lives.
Anger at some people not being responsible and putting others in danger and the disregard for our fellow human beings.
Anger at the loss of businesses, jobs, salary and wages and security.
So much anger.
Then along comes grief.
Grief around the changes forced upon us.
Grief at the realisation of how much of an illusion we were under.
Grief on being isolated and away from friends and family.
Grief for a loss of routine and the way we were living.
Grief at the loss of our perceived safety and security.
Grief of not knowing what is next.
These type of feeling and emotions are the ones that we usually try really hard not to engage in.
They are so uncomfortable.
Now we are being forced to slow down and to start listening and processing these emotions.
This is not a bad thing, even though it may feel really terrible at the moment.
We are feeling angry because we feel out of control and frustrated.
We are feeling grief to release what we no longer need.
Whatever you are feeling is ok. It is going to change throughout the day. Allow and accept how you are feeling.
It is in the resistance that we start to suffer.
If you need to cry, cry.
If you need to yell, then yell into a pillow.
If you need to vent, then vent.
If you need to move your body, move your body.
If you need to sit with it, then sit.
We are being asked to self soothe and not many people know how to do this, so start by being kind to yourself.
When you are ready, some self-reflection is a great way to move through the emotions and to gain wisdom.
Anger is an opportunity. Anger means that you are not understanding something.
Look at where and what you are angry about and see if there is an opportunity.
What are you not understanding?
Could you do something like write to your local MP, start a side business that you have been dreaming about for years, reach out and help a neighbour?
Grief needs to be processed by you alone and at your own time.
Some self-reflection questions for this could be
What am I needing or ready to let go of?
What is the lesson here for me?
The quicker we can move to acceptance, the quicker we can end our own suffering and be able to move forward in a calmer and more relaxed manner.
As always remember,
You truly are magnificent.
